No matter what challenges you are navigating in your relationship, coaching can be a valuable investment. Here’s a breakdown of the benefits that coaching can offer you!
Pre-Marriage and Marriage Coaching
If you are engaged, married, or in a long-term partnership, and if you view the relationship with your partner as THE most important relationship in your life, then why would you NOT invest in that relationship to give it the highest chance of success for the future?
Just like your house or landscaping, a relationship requires your consistent attention, time, energy, and yes, sometimes money, to keep it in working order. When you think of the alternative (i.e. divorce), it’s worth it to invest in your relationship upfront to avoid some of the most common pitfalls that drive couples apart.
Here are some worthy reasons to invest in coaching for your relationship:
- Communication: Coaches offer effective communication techniques and help you reevaluate how you communicate with your partner. This helps you address the root cause of recurring conflict so you can move toward resolution, instead of feeling perpetually stuck and at-odds on the same issues.
- Clarity: Whether you feel disconnected from your partner or frustrated about the daily logistics of your life together, coaching helps you get clear on what your needs and expectations are for your partner and relationship, so you can identify the gap and create a plan to move forward.
- Proactive Work: For couples who aren’t necessarily facing a crisis, coaching is still valuable. Consistent check-ins with a coach help you nip minor disagreements or concerns in the bud. Coaching can also help you take your relationship to the next level – things may be “good,” but there is always room for growth and improvement. This is about being proactive instead of reactive.
Divorce Coaching
If you are contemplating divorce or in the middle of one, things can get very overwhelming, very quickly. In my personal and professional experience, a negative mindset and emotions can cause a divorce to drag on longer and cost more than necessary.
Trust me on this one – when I worked full-time at a law firm, I had to manage multiple cases and deadlines at once, and I was always in legal mode, even if my client was struggling with a non-legal issue. And I saw MANY cases drag on due to emotional, non-legal issues.
While many different professionals may be involved in your divorce (lawyer, mediator, financial advisor, etc.), they are usually not trained and/or don’t have the time to help you with your mindset and emotions. A coach fills that important need by helping you stay grounded, organized, and clear in your thinking, so you can make well-balanced decisions for your future.
Coaching offers practical and emotional support for all stages of the process, including these valuable benefits:
- Logistics: Divorce involves significant legal, financial, and emotional hurdles. Coaches help with planning, goal setting, decision-making, and understanding options so you can work more effectively with your lawyer and financial advisor to come up with the best strategy to move forward.
- Emotional Overwhelm: It is crucial during divorce that you have a space to be fully heard, and your experience be truly validated; otherwise, it can very difficult to move forward. Coaches offer emotional support and strategies for self-care, helping you manage stress and gain clarity.
- Cost-Effective: Coaching can save you time and legal fees in the long-term because it helps you process emotions and make clear, well-balanced decisions at a much lower cost, rather than bringing every issue to your attorney, who is more expensive and not trained to address these types of non-legal issues.
Conclusion
Coaching is well worth the investment if you want to proactively improve and/or maintain the health of your marriage or navigate divorce with clarity and resilience. The benefit of learning skills that not only address your current situation but will serve you in future relationships is simply priceless.
Kara Francis is a relationship, marriage and divorce coach in NYC serving clients in New York City and wherever you’re located. Kara Francis Coaching is a divorce lawyer turned Marriage & Divorce Coach, as well as a divorce survivor. I help you feel clarity, confidence, and resilience in your relationship journey, no matter what it looks like. Let’s jump on a call so we can connect with each other and discuss how my services can be supportive for you!
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