Effective Pre-Marriage Coaching & Marriage Prep Course in New York City
Marriage Doesn’t Have to Mean Losing Yourself
Modern Marriage Design is a 4-week personal growth experience that helps you enter marriage with clarity, confidence, and a plan that honors your values, dreams, and voice.
Want a marriage that honors YOU?
Let’s talk. Book your free Discovery Call now.
As you prepare for your wedding day, you are probably feeling one or more of the following:
Unclear about your identity, values, expectations for marriage, and how your relationship will honor all of it.
Scared that you will lose who you are and have to give up your personal goals and dreams after you get married, especially if you want to have kids.
Worried that after the newlywed bliss wears off, your marriage will feel boring, and you will eventually feel disconnected and unfulfilled.
Unsure if you and your partner are on the same page on major issues (like money, kids, in-laws, etc.), but hesitant to raise them because conflict feels scary and hard.
Pressure from external expectations to follow a marriage model that doesn’t feel aligned with who you truly are.
It’s not your fault that you feel this way, because you’ve been taught to follow a version of marriage that wasn’t designed with you in mind. Since birth, we have all been surrounded by messages from culture, religion, family, and social media about what a “good” marriage “should” look and feel like. It’s no wonder that you feel anxious if your relationship doesn’t fit the mold.
What if your discomfort isn’t a red flag, but a sign that you deserve something different than the model you were given? This isn’t about blaming your upbringing or beliefs. It’s about rewriting the story of your marriage from a place of self-awareness, conscious choice, and alignment.
Ready to build a marriage that reflects who you are?
Let’s connect—schedule your free Discovery Call today.
Are you ready to enter marriage feeling clear, confident, and fully yourself—with a relationship that fits you and supports your growth?
Defining “You” Before “I Do” is a pre-marriage group coaching program that gives you the blueprint to:
Feel confident that your relationship aligns with your personal values and goals.
Express your needs clearly and resolve conflict with your partner while maintaining love and respect.
Feel ready and excited for marriage and committed to continued growth – individually and together.
Introducing: Modern Marriage Design
A simple, 4-step process to design an authentic marriage that actually fits your life—not anyone else’s expectations.
Step 1: Clarify Who You Are
Identify your core values, desires, and deal breakers with the True You Values Finder — get clear on what really matters to you in life and love.
Step 2: Design Your Dream Partnership
Using the Roles & Rhythms Formula, create an intentional, fair division of responsibilities that reflects the reality of your relationship and life, instead of following outdated gender roles by default. (Think: household chores, managing finances, child-rearing, social obligations, and more.)
Step 3: Build Communication Tools That Last
Learn how to clearly express your needs, navigate conflict effectively and respectfully, and stay connected with your partner through life’s challenges with the Marriage Playbook and your unique Marriage Energy Map.
Step 4: Integrate & Align
Put it all together with live support, expert insights, and 1:1 guidance—so you can enter into marriage with a personalized blueprint that sets you up for long-term fulfillment and growth.
Why This Method Works When Others Don’t
Most traditional marriage prep focuses on religious teachings, outdated gender roles, or advice from other couples (aka the blind leading the blind). That kind of approach skips the inner work, which is essential to creating an aligned and fulfilling marriage.
Modern Marriage Design flips the script.
Instead of telling you what your marriage “should” be, this program helps you reconnect with yourself first, and then teaches you how to build a framework for your marriage that aligns with your values, goals, and relationship.
This doesn’t mean you can’t follow certain religious teachings or traditional gender roles in your own marriage. The difference with this program is, you are consciously choosing what dynamic you want to create, instead of passively following a model that’s been handed down to you from external sources.
This isn’t therapy. It’s not a checklist. Instead of blindly following the default “rules” you’ve been given, you will consciously create a marriage that reflects who you really are and what you truly want.
You don’t have to settle for a one-size-fits-all marriage.
Book your free Discovery Call and start designing a relationship that fits you.
I’ve Lived It. I’ve Worked It. Now, I Help You Navigate It.
I have been coaching and practicing divorce law for years. I have also been married, divorced, and remarried.
When I entered my first marriage at 28 years old, I didn’t know who I truly was, how to resolve conflict in a healthy way, or whether my relationship was aligned with what I actually wanted my life to look like. Simply put: I didn’t have the slightest clue how to be married. But it was the next item on the “list” of things we are “supposed” to do in life, so I figured it would work itself out. (Spoiler alert: It did not.)
We attended Pre-Cana with dozens of other couples as a “check the box” task in order to get married in a Catholic church, even though neither of us were practicing Catholics at the time and had no intention to do so after the wedding. Sitting here today, I couldn’t tell you a single thing I learned.
The wedding was “perfect.” But as the newlywed bliss wore off, the issues we struggled with before marriage resurfaced, and over time, I started to feel more and more resentful and disconnected from myself and my partner. That marriage (a 10-year relationship) ultimately ended in divorce. I’ve seen this happen to many other couples in my career as a coach and lawyer.
Given this personal and professional experience, when it comes to being married, I now understand how important it is to clearly define your values and goals, learn how to communicate your needs and resolve conflict with your partner, and intentionally design a marriage dynamic that works best for you.
I applied this approach to my own life before getting remarried at age 36, and now, I’m here to help brides everywhere do the same.
Your vision. Your voice. Your future.
Let’s talk about how to build a marriage that supports it all.
What Past and Current Clients Are Saying
As a divorce attorney turned coach, and someone who’s been through marriage, divorce, and remarriage, I know what it takes to build a relationship that lasts. But don’t just take it from me. Here’s what past clients have said after working with me:
“I gained the confidence that I was doing the right things, the right way, at the right time, and the self assessment at the beginning was a helpful tool.” –Ciaran
“Kara is a great listener and asks questions that really make you think about your situation. Having her to talk with has been so helpful. Her unique perspective as a neutral third party and attorney background was objective and very useful.” –Michelle
“I learned many things working with Kara: My core values. How much I’ve changed in the past few years. Things that I’ve messed up / didn’t pay enough care or attention to in my relationship. My maturity and strength.” –Jamie
“I appreciated Kara’s warm, compassionate and empathetic listening skills and the tools she offered.” –Michele
Craving more clarity and confidence before saying “I do”?
Your free Discovery Call is the first step.
Here’s What You’ll Get Inside Modern Marriage Design
🎓 4-Week Guided Experience
Weekly video modules (No fluff – just what you need to move forward with clarity and confidence)
Modules cover topics like personal identity, marriage roles, finances, communication, and more.
📘 Companion Workbook Bundle
The True You Values Finder – Get clear on what matters most
The Roles & Rhythms Formula – Design fair, realistic responsibilities
The Marriage Playbook – Build strong communication habits
Your Marriage Energy Map – Understand your stress responses + patterns
💬 1:1 Private Coaching Session (60 min)
Personalized guidance on your biggest questions, goals, and concerns
Walk away with a customized plan for your future marriage and life
🎥 4 Live Weekly Group Calls (Optional – calls are recorded if you can’t make it)
Ask questions, get feedback, work through real-life challenges
Celebrate your wins + feel supported by like-minded women
🎙️ Expert Guest Sessions (Optional – calls are recorded if you can’t make it)
Real talk with professionals who get what modern marriage actually looks like
Includes experts who specialize in money, boundaries, intimacy, and more.
💸 Exclusive Discounts on Additional Coaching Opportunities
40% off additional 1:1 sessions — go deeper when you need to (limited to 4 per individual)
40% off couples sessions — safely integrate your work with your partner (limited to 2 per couple)
Marriage should feel aligned—not forced.
Schedule your free Discovery Call and let’s make sure it does.
F.A.Q.’s
This isn’t a checklist or a one-size-fits-all framework based solely on religious teachings.
Rather, this program is about you holistically – your identity, your values (which may or may not include religion), your voice. You’ll walk away with real tools, deeper clarity, and a relationship vision that’s aligned with the life you actually want to live.
Nope. This is a space just for you and other brides. While you’ll have the tools to bring these conversations into your relationship, the focus of the program is on getting clear and grounded within yourself first—so you can show up to your relationship with intention and confidence.
However, if you would like support navigating these conversations with your partner, you can add on couples coaching sessions at a discounted rate – check out the Exclusive Discounts above!
Totally normal. You don’t need to have it all figured out to start – you start where you are.
You’ll be guided through reflective prompts, personalized support, and bite-sized tools that make it easier to understand what you feel and express it without fear or pressure.
Remember: You are not alone, and there is nothing “wrong” with you for feeling anxious about getting married – tons of women (myself included) have similar concerns before the big day. I’m here to help you work through them!
This program is designed to help you get clear on who you are and what you truly want in a marriage—not to tell you what to do.
If clarity leads to hard truths, you’ll have a judgment-free space and supportive community to navigate them with compassion, courage, and confidence, regardless of your ultimate decision.
This marriage coaching program is flexibly designed with real life in mind. All calls are recorded, you can complete the videos and workbook on your own time, and we’ll schedule our 1:1 session at a time that works best for you. You can move at your own pace and still get everything you need.
You deserve a marriage that reflects your truth.
Let’s talk about how to make it happen—book your free Discovery Call.
The Right Time to Prepare for Marriage Is Before You Say “I Do”
Modern Marriage Design is offered 2 times per quarter, and our next round kicks off on August 11th.
To keep this experience personal, supportive, and deep, each round is limited to 5 people. A smaller group means more individual attention, a safe space to share, and coaching that meets you exactly where you are..
Small Group. Big Shift. Limited Openings.
Your free Discovery Call is the perfect first step toward clarity and connection.
Step 1
Join the Program
Get clear on what you want in a marriage, create a relationship that fits your life and values, solve problems with respect, and feel more connected with and supported by your partner.
Step 2
Set aside 2 hours per week
Each week, you’ll join a group call, complete journal prompts and an assessment, and share in Voxer. You’ll also schedule a private coaching session at your convenience. Bonus calls with guest experts will also be offered. All calls are recorded in case you miss one or want to re-watch later.
Step 3
Actively Participate
Join group calls to learn, ask questions, share wins, or get coached through challenges. Use Voxer between calls to check in, get support, and celebrate progress in real time.
Modern Marriage Design will help you:
🔒 Develop a clear vision for your marriage
💬 Feel confident navigating tough conversations
🧘♀️ Release yourself from outdated roles and expectations
❤️ Build a relationship that supports your dreams—not one that silences them
🌱 Create a marriage that grows with you, not against you
Marriage should feel like a conscious choice, not a checklist.
Let’s make sure it does—book your free Discovery Call today.
What’s the investment?
Take advantage of the pre-launch price of $750 by signing up before May 31st, which will save you $150! (Normal program cost is $999.)
ADD-ON OPTIONS:
Further enhance your marriage preparation by adding on any of the following:
2 couples coaching sessions at a discounted rate of $200 each (Normally $350/session – savings of $450)
Additional 1:1 coaching sessions at a discounted rate of $100 each (Normally $250/session – savings of $450) (limited to 3 additional sessions)
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